Need to Vent?

wiggyslilsis

I do.

We don't get to go to the play date today because I still haven't passed my kidney stone. I am in pain and nauseated. I have to keep chugging all fluids and make myself flush this thing out. It is taking forever and I haven't been able to get anything done because I feel miserable. I have so much to do the rest of the week and I just don't have time to feel like crap.

Also, last night DH got Lo right to sleep and then she woke up crying so he tried for an hour and a half to get her back down but he was huffy and puffy the whole time and didn't really try. I finally took over and got her to bed in a half hour. But seriously dude I feel like shit because I am passing a kidney stone and I took care of her all day and you couldn't just put your attitude aside for a few minutes and get her to sleep? Ugh.

Add your vents here...I know somebody else is having a rough day and needs to let it out so go ahead and we can commiserate!

nightmare_of_beauty

My SIL is an idiot. She is living with MIL. They had a fire at the place they rented two years ago and lost everything and ended up having to pay a lot of money because the fire was their fault (seriously, it was). They are still struggling. 

First they decide, let's get married! So they have a wedding. They originally were going to pay for it all with their tax refund, but when that ran out of money MIL had to cover the rest. 

Right after that they get sued for the damage to the neighboring house and her wages start getting garnished for a medical bill. They're still paying for them. 

Then they decided to have another baby! She just had him and now she has to have her and BIL cell phones shut off and has no idea how she's going to pay off her over $300 layaway of Christmas presents (BIL has a daughter from a previous relationship and together they now have 2). She has not been working since July because it was too stressful to work while PR. 

I'm sorry, but why did you think it was smart to do all of this? Why do you not use your brain? 

Also, and this is just to vent, she hasn't been the greatest about my loss but it's because she doesn't know how. She gets that I'm hurt, she just doesn't know how to word herself correctly. Like before baby was born, she asked if I was still willing to watch the girls while she was in the hospital. I said of course. She said she wasn't sure since I just loss my baby if it would be too hard for me. I understand your intentions and they were sweet, but all you needed was to ask me, get my answer, and move on. At least she is trying. 

Ugh! And now my SIL's MIL is asking me for money! 

nightmare_of_beauty

Also, wiggy I have never had kidney stones, but I have been told they are not fun at all. I'm sorry you're having so much trouble. I'll be thinking of you and hope they pass soon. 

sgautschi

@nightmare_of_beauty I'm sorry your SIL is not being very smart and is bringing your MIL down with her. I have family that is like that also...

@wiggylilsis I'm sorry you still haven't passed it, and I can totally relate to the thing with your DH. My H gets overwhelmed really quick with A, and I feel like he could try harder to soothe her before passing her off to me. He's still learning I guess, but it is frustrating at times.

nightmare_of_beauty

@sgautschi I use to feel bad for MIL, but she's doing it to herself. 

sparklingdiamond

I am sorry for both of you ladies!  :-(  I hope the kidney stones pass soon!

Mine is DH related.  I think he needs to get another job and he has mentioned wanting another job.  He has been there almost 6 years and hasn't had a raise in 4 years!  And they stopped covering spouses on insurance this year and he has to work extra hours.  It sucks.  So I found a job that would be perfect and he won't freaking act on it.  A pay raise with better benefits at a job closer to home would really help us out!

nightmare_of_beauty

@sparklingdiamond If he's unhappy I'm surprised he wouldn't jump at the chance. 

AshleyMatt1215

I have a friend (she's really the wife of a friend...) that complains everyday about her kid. She is a STAM most of the day, she works in the evening. Today she was complaining about her kid figuring out how to get out of his exersaucer and how tired she is.

Lady, I'd love to SAH. It would be a dream for me, don't bitch about it on facebook. My kid will be going to day care at 8 weeks old. Just STFU and enjoy the fact that you get to see your kid all the time.

Don't even get me started on parents that don't take care of their kids... lets not go there today.

bridget0117

I HATE people who don't think before they talk!!

Yesterday some lady was like "OMG your son is so cute!!". I looked at her in shock and she goes "Oh wait is it a girl??". I said "Yes, she's a girl. Thank you!".

Like seriously? Are you fucking kidding me? You can clearly see all the purple on her car seat, the purple and pink blanket, her earrings are pierced, she's wearing pink. Like come on!! It's not the first time it's happened either, I understand she looks like her daddy but she doesn't look like a boy!!!

It just pisses me off!! OK vent over.

bridget0117

@wiggyslilsis, I am sorry you aren't feeling any better and that it's not passing. I hate when my DH isn't helpful when I don't feel good but it's like he gets sick and he doesn't want to move a bone and I have to take care of him. Blah! Men!!

@nightmare_of_beauty, your SIL sounds like a gem!! Sorry she's such an idiot and it sucks that your MILESTONE isn't standing up for herself.

@sparklingdiamond, I hope your DH realizes that you found a great opportunity for him and that he acts on it soon!

sparklingdiamond

@nightmare_of_beauty  Well we are building that house and had gotten pre-approved.  They said we shouldn't change jobs, but I was reading online that if you stay in the same field and make more money, they won't hold that against you.  

Lynn0514

sparklingdiamond said:

@nightmare_of_beauty  Well we are building that house and had gotten pre-approved.  They said we shouldn't change jobs, but I was reading online that if you stay in the same field and make more money, they won't hold that against you.  

This is a tricky time for him to change jobs. But he could always apply to see if he gets it, and then broach the subject with the mortgage people before he accepts!

Lynn0514

@wiggyslilsis, I am sorry you aren't feeling any better and that it's not passing. I hate when my DH isn't helpful when I don't feel good but it's like he gets sick and he doesn't want to move a bone and I have to take care of him. Blah!

This! It's so frustrating that he won't help you, when I'm sure you're in horrible pain

wiggyslilsis

Thanks guys! @sparklingdiamond I can see how that would be frustrating but hopefully he is just nervous and stressed about the house and you can convince him to at least apply.

@nightmare_of_beauty I am sorry your SIL keeps making bad decisions and she can't figure out what to say. I totally agree that she could have just left it at asking the question...both you and her knew why she was asking.

DH is notoriously bad at helping out when I don't feel well. The less I do the less he does. And he thinks making dinner (just making not planning, shopping and cleaning) is like something I should just fawn over him for like oh you made dinner that is enough for one night. It is just really frustrating. That is why you have a partner so they can pick up the slack and hold you up when you need it and you can do the same. Ugh. This is something we are working on.

sgautschi

@bridget0117 Isis looks nothing like a boy, some people are just dumb. I've had someone say "what a cute little guy" when A was in the K'Tan, but that's because they couldn't see her clothes and just barely glanced at her.

saralynn7

The little boy comments are what have led me to only take M in public wearing a headband. I've had the "isn't he precious" comment even when she's decked out in pink with a pink blanket. People just don't have filters

bridget0117

@saralynn7, that's a good idea. I might start doing that! I honestly thought that seeing her earrings you couldn't mistake her for a boy. LOL but yes, people don't have filters.

Uptowngirl2009

I need to vent on Friday so I am getting on board with this thread. I am in such a grouchy mood today for no good reason other than being exhausted.

It doesn't help that I am now a basketball widow for the next 4 months (DH coaches girls varsity bball at an area high school). He is gone every night until 7:30 between working and coaching. I feel like this is leaving me having to take care of everything (cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc). I want him to help but when I ask him to do certain things he gets an attitude about it. Most of the time he is good about helping but now that he is extra busy he won't be as willing. So most of the time I don't even ask. I feel like I am not going to be able to keep up with everything in the next few months.

nightmare_of_beauty

@wiggyslilsis My H can be like that, especially if I'm sick because I'm in no mood to actually care if things get done, so he stops caring. We reached the agreement of "honey do-list." I thought he would hate them, but he's fine with them. I tell him what I want done and he gets it done for me. I don't think he realizes how extremely happy it makes me when I come home and see stuff done. He works nights and I try to cut him some slack, but I worked nights full time and went to school full time, and still found time to take care of everything when we first started living together, suck it up!